From Codependent No More:
“Sometimes codependents believe we can’t, shouldn’t, and don’t deserve to feel happy. Sometimes we do things to create sad feelings after experiencing happy feelings, or whenever the possibility of a happy feeling exists. It’s okay to feel happy. It’s okay to feel sad. Let the emotional energy pass through, and strive for peace and balance.”
“Sometimes, it just takes only a little practice and awareness to awaken the emotional part of us.”
If we are stuck in any particular feeling we should give ourselves what we need. Talk to a counselor, a therapist, a psychologist, or a clergy person. Talk to all of them if you need to. Through video, in person, by phone, whatever. Exercise, write a letter that you don’t intend to send, talk to people you feel safe with, spend quiet time in meditation, etc. Process your feelings to get them out.
We need to make awareness of ourselves a habit. Don’t wait until feelings become unbearable. Make it a regular practice so its becomes habit.
The way you feel now in how things affect you, was influenced by what you had or had not been practicing up to this moment. And so it follows that the way you feel in the future in how things will affect you, will also be influenced by what you start, or do not start practicing now into making them habits.